tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2703298219148864437.post1598338545995590698..comments2023-05-15T08:45:11.289-05:00Comments on Jack Scott's Discussions on Male Sexuality: Of Skeletons and ClosetsJack Scotthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08273576581155029176noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2703298219148864437.post-57008050642439583612012-07-03T07:37:27.058-05:002012-07-03T07:37:27.058-05:00:) You know Ward, I've really forgotten about...:) You know Ward, I've really forgotten about what it feels like being the dominant male with a woman. I always fantasized about men, but was afraid and awkward about the whole thing thinking how wrong it was, along with all the social complications that come along with being out. That's why I got married. But now since you bring it up, and once I was married, I remember thinking to myself "NOW I'm on the right track; this is the way it's supposed to be--male/female." But that was before I ever had real sex with a guy, and once I did, that's when I realized what I was and what I really wanted. So yes, I do understand where you're coming from. <br /><br />An opportunist? Aren't we all? I guess that's OK for you as long as you keep things in perspective. I was the type that would be totally heartbroken if there wasn't a "second time". It took me a while to figure out that a one night stand is simply that--a one time event, and that it's simply something done in the heat of the moment. No guarantee of a return trip. <br /><br />Once I was able to realize all of that and be OK with it, I was fine. But don't be afraid of being alone or feeling that time is running out. Don't give yourself away to just anyone just because they're willing. That was something I never did and as time went on, I realized how smart that was. Once I was single and got out to the gay circles, there were so many guys that I passed up who turned out to be total train wrecks. I guess all I'm saying is be careful, don't rush, and be honest with yourself and others. Go out and play--carefully. Don't have expectations of always hooking up and you'll realize that it's OK.<br /><br />Nice chatting, and thanks again Jack for this topic! A great conversation starter! I hope you all get to have some fireworks in your July 4th!bobhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04469145500792404484noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2703298219148864437.post-84892718882383729922012-07-02T16:08:50.439-05:002012-07-02T16:08:50.439-05:00Bob: Thank you for taking the time to write a repl...Bob: Thank you for taking the time to write a reply. You are very perceptive. Obviously you're getting the "Reader's Digest" version of hte whole story. There's way more to tell. My married buddy I would not call gay - curious maybe. The sex, well it happened after a drink filled evening and quite frankly Bob, he's a stud. Always has been always will be. If there was no attraction I wouldn't have done it. Secondly, the woman at the bar came on to me. Hey, I'm an opportunist. Beats sitting at home whacking and I like being the dominant male in charge that sends a woman into ecstasy. Bottom line Bob. I don't like to be alone. You're gut is right and yes I do rush. I want everything yesterday. Thanks again. I appreciate your forthrightness!wardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11469331324713353705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2703298219148864437.post-70398052591676710282012-07-01T09:45:10.381-05:002012-07-01T09:45:10.381-05:00Hi Jack--great post. I had to take some time to r...Hi Jack--great post. I had to take some time to respond to it. I really wish I had more time to sit and respond to your posts a bit more.<br /><br />But! I couldn't agree more! Once I got up the nerve to explore my gay feelings, I couldn't believe how many married men I met. They were all just like me, living a big BIG secret. I think it still goes on in spite of the changing acceptance of homosexuality because men find it much easier to be and to appear as straight. Sadly, I don't think that will ever change, and I think the "big secret" is going to continue on and on the way it always has. It's scary and sad to think that still, today with all the progress that's been made, people can't look at sex in a different prospective, and that people have to hide what only seems natural and inborn to them.bobhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04469145500792404484noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2703298219148864437.post-76940961992517535482012-07-01T09:34:55.418-05:002012-07-01T09:34:55.418-05:00Hi Ward, our stories parallel, and I feel for you....Hi Ward, our stories parallel, and I feel for you. Oddly enough, I too had a gay friend who is married to a woman. [We never had sex, although he always wanted to. I didn't; I just was never attracted to him sexually.] But we were always friends, that is, until I divorced and came out. He was too afraid that people would link us together as "secret lovers", which is something I can totally understand. It's been 15 years now, and we haven't spoken to each other since.<br /><br />But for the life of me, why would you date a woman at this point in your life? You did say that you are bi, but you're only going to fall into the exact same dilemma if you aren't truthful right up front. I think that only proves that you're not yet comfortable with being open with who you are. If you're really bi [not gay] and you really still find yourself attracted to women, then say so when push comes to shove with them. They'll either still be interested in you, or they won't. But you'll certainly save yourself a lot of angst. I go through this all the time with women coming on to me. Once I tell them who/what I am, we still continue a friendly relationship, and there's no one hurt. <br /><br />I also think you need to explore men more. My gut tells me you've only had a little experience with them, and that you find it much easier to compromise and bed down with a woman. No argument there, it IS much easier to hook up with women, at least socially. I think you're trying to rush things, feeling that you haven't a moment to spare being married previously. Calm down, quite simply. Become comfortable with yourself, be honest about it with others, and you'll see. Things will fall into place. My best regards!bobhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04469145500792404484noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2703298219148864437.post-52963287532048791462012-06-30T13:21:46.179-05:002012-06-30T13:21:46.179-05:00As scary as the prospect of divorce is to most guy...As scary as the prospect of divorce is to most guys, in my personal experience talking with guys over the last few years, the majority of them seem to be happy the finally got up the nerve to divorce. Most of them are happier by far than when they were married.<br /><br />The only guys I've met who are not happy are the ones whose children blamed them for the divorce and cut ties due to their father's bisexuality or homosexuality.<br /><br />Thanks for sharing your experience Ward.<br /><br />Jack ScottJack Scotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08273576581155029176noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2703298219148864437.post-61688756021210259062012-06-30T07:52:47.512-05:002012-06-30T07:52:47.512-05:00I can relate to this article somewhat, living in a...I can relate to this article somewhat, living in a marriage knowing that I was bi was very streesful for causing me mental anguish,health problems and even anxiety. Divorce was actually a huge relief. I decided to accept myself after the divorce and just go with the flow - experiment if you will. To my surprise two things happened. I had my first m2m experience with, of all people, a close male, married, friend. It was real and we are still friends and from time to time still get naked. But the neat thing is we had a friendship first. Our relationship is not based on lust. We're friends sex or not. The second thing was I met a single woman, yes at a bar. We have gone on to have some of the best m2w sex I've ever had. She is turned on by me in ways that my ex never was. She does not know about my buddy and I having sex. But he knows about her as I've recounted many a story for him. I don't know where I'm going. I don't want to marry again, yet, anybody. I don't want to break up anyones home. In the words from a Grateful Dead song "...what a long strange trip its been..." 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