tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2703298219148864437.post3215846140652529394..comments2023-05-15T08:45:11.289-05:00Comments on Jack Scott's Discussions on Male Sexuality: ThanatopsisJack Scotthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08273576581155029176noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2703298219148864437.post-75789008189395394952011-11-28T13:37:17.405-06:002011-11-28T13:37:17.405-06:00I'm glad you enjoyed the poem Paul. I too hope...I'm glad you enjoyed the poem Paul. I too hope you can take the advice to heart to live your life to the fullest.<br /><br />I admit, as Benjamin Franklin said, "I'm an idealist without illusions." There are real limitations on our lives as married bisexual men, its true. But we are not doing all we can if we don't reach beyond some of the constraints.<br /><br />Best wishes.<br /><br />Jack ScottJack Scotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08273576581155029176noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2703298219148864437.post-52212785681624078942011-11-28T06:13:41.206-06:002011-11-28T06:13:41.206-06:00Great poem and advice for a life well lived. Than...Great poem and advice for a life well lived. Thanks for sharing and hope I can take the advice a little more to heart. But we all do what we have to and as much as we can given our self-imposed limitations.Paulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12775219683154536934noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2703298219148864437.post-48597048846509783732011-11-27T08:20:44.735-06:002011-11-27T08:20:44.735-06:00[Disclaimer of sorts:]
I know, I know--I'm lo...[Disclaimer of sorts:]<br /><br />I know, I know--I'm long winded and it takes forever for me to get to the point! I apologize for that, and I guess the post above points to this. But I hope you or someone can appreciate what I want to share. There are some things you just can't say in a sentence or paragraph. The meaning [and want] of friendship is one of them. I hope you can relate. Thanks!bobhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04469145500792404484noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2703298219148864437.post-8626981830644540312011-11-27T08:07:18.001-06:002011-11-27T08:07:18.001-06:00Continued:
We all seem to place ourselves in an un...Continued:<br />We all seem to place ourselves in an unspoken kind of hierarchy. We eventually think of ourselves as Billy does, as being the next possible missing person at the table. We never think it possible that people like Mike could possibly beat us to it. But here it is--they can, and sometimes do!<br /><br />As it turned out, Mike was a fitness trainer who tended bar on the side. He became obsessed with his body and eventually turned to steroids. With prolonged use, he developed cancer, and now 12 years later, he's gone. Such a waste, and it was all so needless! <br /><br />We all know of people like Mike who we secretly adore. We think of them as a constant fixture. Someone who will always be around for us to admire; someone who we always wanted to know. Once it happens, we find it hard to believe when they're suddenly gone, wiped away forever. <br /><br />I suppose that this is a lesson. If there's someone you know who brings joy or meaning to your life, let them know. Perhaps it's someone you meant to speak to or acknowledge, or maybe it's a friend who you simply take for granted. NOW IS THE TIME to let them know how much they mean to you. Tomorrow is assumed, but never promised.bobhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04469145500792404484noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2703298219148864437.post-106304973103304512011-11-27T08:06:45.351-06:002011-11-27T08:06:45.351-06:00Continued:
Within many people's circle of fr...Continued: <br />Within many people's circle of friends, there's usually someone who we really don't know. But we've noticed them. They're out there with friends of friends' friends, and we never have the chance to speak to them. But we notice them, and we admire them. Mike was one of those people to me.<br /><br />The first time I saw him I was in awe. He was bar tending and he served me a drink. I wanted to start some conversation, but the place, as well as he, was much too busy. Besides, I wasn't in his league. This guy was obviously a bar-bell boy, and a good ten years younger than me. We wore a crew cut, and wore it well--along with a fabulous, sexy five o'clock shadow that drove me wild. I wondered, "Who was this guy?" A cop? A Marine? Maybe a gym teacher? He had those all American, clean cut, MASCULINE good looks that any guy would want, along with a perfectly toned body. There was so much going on for Mike, that for me, he seemed unapproachable. True fantasy material.<br /><br />That was 12 years ago. I was newly divorced and had just come out as gay. I was somewhat naive as to what the gay community was all about. I was so unprepared for what the "competition" was like, as well as what the difficulties of finding my "set" of people would be. Eventually I learned that EVERYONE felt the same way about Mike, and that he was one of those guys who only seeks out those like himself. Yes--he was pretty much unapproachable to ordinary guys like me. They all knew him to be friendly enough, but only at a distance. People just accepted that and moved on with him, just as I did years ago. [continued below:]bobhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04469145500792404484noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2703298219148864437.post-52345841596222279452011-11-27T08:03:33.151-06:002011-11-27T08:03:33.151-06:00This year at Thanksgiving, we were invited to a fr...This year at Thanksgiving, we were invited to a friend's house. He was having about 20 people and we were more than happy to be included in the mix. Joey, the host, rattled off all the names of those who would be there, but I only knew half of them. He assured us that we would recognize everyone there, and that we would have a good time. He was right! It was one of the best Thanksgivings I had in a long time. Pat & Billy were 2 of the guests, and I became acquainted with them, as well as this whole group about 12 years ago.<br /><br />When it was time for Pat & Billy to leave, Billy became a bit emotional. They were both the oldest of this gathering, both being in their 60s. It saddened him that each year, another friend was gone. He reminded us all to make our memories and meaningful moments NOW, before it's too late. All of this I thought, was sparked from Billy's recent hospital stay and health issues. He knows more than anyone how quickly life goes by, and how unprepared he is to let it go. You could see it in his eyes as he kissed us all good bye. "Poor Billy", I thought. He's scared and not ready to go.<br /><br />With only 6 of us left at the table, we started talking about Billy, his health, and how he needs to take care of himself. Eventually, they spoke of all the others who aren't around anymore. To my horror, MIKE'S name came up, and how it must be two years ago that he died! My heart sank, and here it is days later, and I still can't believe the news. [continue below]bobhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04469145500792404484noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2703298219148864437.post-49446862860609624842011-11-23T20:39:04.583-06:002011-11-23T20:39:04.583-06:00Skier, good luck and best wishes.
Jack ScottSkier, good luck and best wishes.<br /><br />Jack ScottJack Scotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08273576581155029176noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2703298219148864437.post-52575206328254728152011-11-23T19:21:43.031-06:002011-11-23T19:21:43.031-06:00Your advice about what to do as a bisexual man can...Your advice about what to do as a bisexual man can also be applied to a homosexual man. I finally realized that recently. While I haven't made the final leap, I am at least working toward that goal. I am coming out to those I am pretty sure will give me the support I need to come out to the others. With each person I come out to, it makes it easier to come out to the next one. That is important because the most important/scary one is yet to come. I have hopes it will be almost a non-event since she is and has always been the most important person in my adult life. And I do love her. I just realize that John Lennon was wrong. All you need is love isn't quite enough some times.skierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00094802443325458254noreply@blogger.com