Wednesday, December 5, 2012

I Sometimes Wonder

I sometimes wonder in this great age of instant and open communication in which everyone has the opportunity at hand to personally communicate instantly with all of the first world and most of the third world if people even understand how great the opportunity before them actually is. If the do, they don't often show it and they rarely take advantage of it.

We live in the information age. More information is at our finger tips every day than people learned in their entire lives just a few decades ago. Some of us don't take advantage of this at all, and way to many of us squander the opportunity by using FaceBook and Twitter and others of that ilk to inform others, who don't really give a damn, of what we had for breakfast this morning, our plans for the day, or what we've recently shopped for. I don't think most of these people have ever had a deep or significant thought.

I sometimes wonder why I take the time and energy to blog about anything of consequence or anything in the least bit challenging. Most people simply don't want to clutter their banal minds with consequential things. They much prefer to center their minds as well as their lives amidst the inconsequential.

As a blogger, I purposely try to challenge my readers. Hell, I even purposely try to make them angry just to get them to think about the consequential things in their lives. Most of the time I fail. Admittedly, I'm not the sharpest tack in the drawer. The failure could be totally due to my own short comings. And if it were not for the minority of readers who do comment on my writings to disagree with me or share with me how I have inspired them to take a new look at their lives and the real life situations they are struggling with, I'd definitely think it was all my fault.

In the recent blog, "People Are Funny" I thought I said some pretty critical things about people in general. I was sure I'd piss some people off; and if fact, I am positive I did. But I'd never know if from the less than deafening responses in the comment section. There was only one lone comment from another blogger whom I greatly respect. And guess what, I don't respect him because he agrees with me all the time or because I agree with him all the time. He has offered some fairly tough criticism of my work. He's also offered some welcome affirmation of my work. That says to me he's an honest man who calls em as he sees em! I like that. He challenges my thinking. Sometimes he even changes my thinking. I like that too. I like that a lot because in the end, I blog to challenge others and to be challenged by them. It's hard to do that  when readers offer little feedback. is not a perfect blog host. There is much that could be improved, but for a free application, it is a wonderful host. It tells we bloggers how many people are looking at our blogs each hour, each day, each week and each month. It keeps tracks of every comment. What the stats Blogger keeps tell me is that my blog is read by an average of 1000 people a day, 30,000 people each month. It even tells me that the blog post "Frot and Frottage" is the most read blog I have ever written. Posted well over a year ago, it is still viewed by almost 7,000 viewers every month. But of the tens of thousands who have read that piece over the last year and a half, only 21 have chosen to comment. That's one in every 6000 people who have read a blog piece designed to challenge and confront, even piss off the average person.

We live in the most connected age the world has ever known. People care enough to search out information and opinion like "Frot And Frottage,"  but they either don't care enough to take the opportunity to discuss it or they are too afraid and unsure of themselves to discuss it, even anonymously. In a Democracy such as ours where free speech is a RIGHT of all citizens, this is scary.
Our founding Fathers spoke up and spoke out KNOWING it would cost them their fortunes and even their lives. Yet, we've become a nation that is loath to discuss ideas in any forum.

Far worse we form our own opinions and cling to them though they have never been exposed to critique from others. Thus do dim witted and uneducated house wives and ball-less husbands make the decision that they are smarter than their pediatricians and refuse to let their children be vaccinated against potentially disfiguring and deadly diseases along with way too many similar crazy decisions.

I challenge each of you to engage in the melee  of life that surrounds you. Speak up, speak out. Don't let me or anyone else speak for you. You speak for yourself. Challenge your brain. Boldly and openly mindedly consider and discuss those things you disagree with most. Expose your own opinions to criticism.

To those of you who do comment, who think and who do expose your closely held opinions to criticism, right on. Thank you and keep up the good work.

Jack Scott


  1. I can't be the first one to post!? Jack, the more connected we become the less connected we become to each other. Mindless communication has become too informal and way too easy. To be honest I don't care what anybody had for breakfast or what their days plans are if they don't affect me. Technology is great, but I do miss the simpler days before the internet!


    1. Patrick, I couldn't agree with you more. I do not have a Twitter or Facebook account. I could care less about the mundane details of other people's lives.

      There are far too many weighty issues that too many people need help with. I often think that many people actually use mindless communication to cover and distract them from the real problems in their lives.

      I know for sure that many gay and bisexual men use promiscuous and anonymous sex to distract themselves from really examining their sexuality.

      Thanks for your comment.

      Jack Scott

  2. Thanks for the call for more critical and independent thought. I might add that more analytical thought is needed to emphasize the nature of the critical thinking that is so much required to live your own life so that you can realize your own potential.

    This is especially important for bisexual men who are not generally much welcomed in our society. To deal with that, it is very advantageous to have developed the self-confidence that comes with having a high level of trust in the capability of your own mind. Nothing builds real self-esteem the way independent and hard thought can. You have to earn your self-esteem and there is no true way to do that without developing your mind and using it to explore and understand the world around us. And no one benefits more than a bisexual man from doing so.

  3. Hi Jack .. I sometimes listen to the local radio talk show host and sometimes I hear him say that the lines are open and emails are coming in. It must be a challenge for the announcer to know through ratings that thousands listen to his show, but only few call in. And it seems that emailing a talk show host is becoming more and more prevalent.
    I thank you for doing what you do and hope that others will add to the ball that you start rolling.

  4. David, thanks, thanks, thanks. I appreciate your comment so much. My apologies for taking so long to acknowledge it. I have been ill for the last few weeks and my computer time has thus been limited.

    Your comment is excellent. I couldn't agree with you more. Over the years spent examining my own bisexuality and helping others to explore their own sexuality, I have become acutely aware that the unwillingness of so many men to examine their lives analytically and then apply critical thought processes to figuring out the best course of action for dealing with their sexuality is pervasive.

    I have helped a number of men to change their lives for the better. Everyone of them is now quick to say they are happier than they have ever been. That does not mean that the change was painless for them. It wasn't. It can't be. But to a man, they now realize that enduring some transient pain led to happiness they had never known or expected to know.

    You are so right, self-esteem must be earned. Self-confidence must be built one brick at a time by interacting with others to discuss and debate issues and ideas that often make one uncomfortable. One will never become self-confident unless and until he is willing to step outside his comfort zone.

    Thank you again for your comment. I would like it very much if you would agree to contact me privately at I'd like to know a little more about you and discuss an idea I've had for a while, but have been unable to act on.

    If you choose not to contact me, I do hope you will continue to read the blog and comment often, either to agree or disagree with what I write.

    Jack Scott


I deeply regret that I must reinstate the verification process for those who want to leave comments on my blog. This is due to the intolerable amount of spam that spammers are attempting to leave on the blog.

At the same time I am changing settings so that those of you who have a Google Blogger ID or other recognized blogger ID will not have to have your comments moderated. My hope is this will encourage more readers to take the time to comment. The fact is I want to read comments with those of you who disagree with me as well as those of you who agree with me. All I ask is that you keep your comments clean and non-threatening.

The only reason I take the time to write this blog is to spur your thoughts and comments. Please do not let the spammers cause you not to comment. I know entering the verification words and numbers is a pain in the ass, but I hope you will not let the spammers cause you not to comment.

I still very much look forward to hearing from you.

Jack Scott

Anyone can comment on what I write in this blog. Regretfully, the recent amount of spam in my email account as required that I reinstate the word verification process for comments which I personally hate.

But at the same time I have loosened the comment moderation process so that those of you who have a Google Blogger ID or other recognized blogger ID will no longer need to wait for your comment to be moderated. I'm hoping this will tempt you to take the trouble to comment.

The truth is I want respectful comments both from those who agree with me and those who do not. All I as is that you keep comments to the point, clean and non-threatenting.

I look forward to hearing from each of you.

Jack Scott